Not the derby, but a joint exercise of civilization and science

The case was blown up in a Roman school (apparently) by the teacher, the mother’s apprehension and kindness, and the mistakes made in other countries (and perhaps self-correcting) in initiating premature and hasty transitions between the sexes. Like I say, expect wise choices and a solid, respectful dialogue

Dear Director, I read with concern my mother the discussion about “action aliases”. She had a knack for accepting the pain of parents who faced their children’s discomfort with their own bodies, and watched automated transformations, with the undisguised threat of “Would you rather a dead daughter or a living son?”. I look at these mothers and their children and I think they deserve more ideologies that instead of leaving space for healthy debate, close confrontation, divide people into “bad,” as opposed to so-called profession, and “good,” please.
“We’re not going to tell a kid who dresses up as Superman and greets us from the top of the stairs that he’s really a superhero and can fly. We’re not going to tell a girl who weighs less than 50kg and sees herself as fat that she can go on a diet. So let’s not tell the girl that she chose a boy’s name and that he was a boy. “Oh no, unfortunately we do.” Then one of these mothers asked us why it is so difficult to tell scientific evidence about this in Italy. The NHS has officially advised against encouraging the social transfer of minors (which “work aliases” is a move) because the harm from this practice , following closely all the leading countries in this approach that are gradually abandoning it. Why not. t Action: How many complaints from “ex-boys” who have been called to try to move without deep investigation now, adults, who want to “come back”, but They find indelible wounds in soul and body: who will restore from their breasts or genitals, the ability to have satisfactory or fertile sex? Thousands of psychiatrists, psychotherapists and doctors in Europe sign a declaration to the international observatory “La Petit Serene” (https: / / www. observatoirepetitesirene.org/) advocates an approach that preserves the physical and mental integrity of these children: many, influenced by social media and propaganda, have been induced, believing that malaise is in the wrong body, to begin the path of sex change; In fact, the malaise persists as new wounds are added. And adults should protect them even from themselves.
As a mother, thanks to Avvenir, I like to invoke an exercise in civilization and science: It’s time to leave the derby to take care of the well-being of our vulnerable children, even when that means saying “number.”
Maria Rachel Royo

I totally agree, Ms. Royo, in his call for “practice in civilization and science” also in relation to transgenderism, begins with the observation (not easy or obvious) of the so-called “gender paradox”. The case was reopened by the case of Marco, an elderly celibate, heterosexual, feeling manly, and for three years he had already been going through the path of verification accompanied by parents and experts, and finally, also through his school, a Romanian school. This young man, as explained yesterday Saturday, November 12, by Luciano Moya in our pages, is in fact the hero of the “career pseudonym”, that is, recognized by his school and “by the chosen name”. In this case, Mark. Reportedly confronting Marco’s teacher harshly, he erased his “chosen name” from an assignment and abruptly summoned him to the reality of his gender at birth. I’m using the subjunctive because I’m not sure what exactly happened. If it goes like this, I’ll go crazy, too. If for some reason there is no agreement on the decision of the school in which you are studying, and there may be disagreement and may be the motive behind it, then it is inconceivable that the speech would lead to a level of glaring shock in the classroom for a person. student. And in this particular case, no one can claim to know more about a particular event, including the psychological event, the person concerned, his parents, and those who follow him in knowledge and conscience.
She addressed your serious concerns with your voice, Mrs. Royo. As you know, in the pages of “Avvenire” we have repeatedly reported mistakes, ill-advised choices and real disasters made in other parts of Europe and the world in dealing with rash cases and even at a very young age of alleged “paradoxes” (since we are talking about “hoarseness” “). A complex, not recurrent, but not imaginary condition. In Britain, as in Scandinavia, in fact, after a season of unfortunate humiliations, a more cautious and reversible approach seems to be initiating gender change paths for young and old. It is not our appearance, we are men and women, we are a biological and psychological reality, we are our souls… We need respect and sensitivity, not the illusion of absolute individual ability or social imposition. In the Roman case, where the transgender adult is the protagonist, the risk of rash steps appears to have been taken into account. And parents, unlike what has happened and continues to happen in other countries, even when there are minors, participate and participate fully. We should really expect sensitivity and prudence, because the decisive “transition” made without weighing all the options, some of them irreversible, only generates, as you remember, more pain and exhaustion to live.
Moreover, colleague Moya in his article pointed out how dangerous and dangerous it is to enter into this discussion with pre-packaged slogans. And to judge, even by a brief and non-existent knowledge of these human stories, situations that are always characterized by imaginable physical and relational discomfort and inner and spiritual suffering. I agree. I only add to the hope that things in the high school class will be less miserable and disastrous than they appear in the reports in circulation, because no teacher – which I allow him to say, without prejudice to the teacher in question – should allow himself to do so, if there are cases similar. for one described. If things were so cruel and shocking, it would not be an exercise in the pedagogical duty of knowing how to say the “no” which she, a good reader, raises about her parents, but because of a purposeful and provocative disrespect for her parents. On the other hand, to the point where I basically tell you not “you are what you are”, but “you are what I see”. Yes, it takes science, civilization, a sense of proportion as well as the boundaries themselves. It’s not a derby.