Dane Clara Togo Dunkeld (22) remembers well when, at the age of 16, she started first grade at Gammel Hellerup Gymnasium, a secondary school in Nordsjælland in Denmark.
She was nervous and a little scared. But outwardly she was seen as self-confident. She didn’t want to stand out or look dull among some of Denmark’s wealthy upper-class youth.
Presentation week at school was marked by drunkenness and sexual games.
Dunkeld was challenged to perform a lap dance on an older boy, while the rest of the students and teachers watched.
– Inside me, I understand that it was wrong. I’m not 100 percent aware of it then and there, but I know full well that it’s on an inclined plane and crossing borders,” Dunkeld says in Danish TV 2 His own news podcast, Dato’.
Letter from “Thomas Trostev”
A few weeks after the start of the study, a message appeared on Facebook from a person with the profile name “Thomas Trusetyv”.
She had been invited to a so-called ‘dinner’, which is a tradition in many secondary schools in North Zealand. At the party, the girls selected from the first class are invited to entertain and serve the boys from the third class.
The ceremony took place in the basement of a private house in Charlottenlund.
Dunkeld knew almost no one was present at the party, and it soon became clear that the party was marked by games and rituals of crossing borders. And there was no shortage of expensive drinks either.
Vodka Belvedere, Champagne Moet. And then they have a hat they call “yes hat”. When you get it in your head as a girl, do whatever you’re told, she tells Danish TV 2.
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Dunkeld believes the party is representative of the many parties she went to during her time in high school.
Often, she says, the girls were supposed to entertain the boys. She describes it as if the girls were dolls that the boys could use as they liked.
Over the next three years, the environment in Dunkel’s social circle was characterized by heavy drinking and cocaine – what she describes as a “toxic culture”.
according to A survey conducted by the Center for Youth Research In Denmark, the number of young people who drink alcohol at least once a week is much higher in Gentofte in northern Zealand than in the rest of the country.
In Gentofte, 56 percent of young people ages 15 to 25 said they drink alcohol between one and two times a week, compared to 27 percent for young people in the same age group in the rest of the country.
In her book, which was published in Denmark in February, she wants to highlight the violent and sexist party culture among high school students, which is especially prevalent among upper-class youth.
Now she wants to warn other young people not to dare speak out.
– I want to tell them that they are not alone in their experiences. There are some things I would like to be different, she says, that may not be very healthy for a child to go through.
– Not happening today
After the book came out Gammel Hellerup Gymnasium has come up with an answer Dunkeld accounts.
They write, among other things, that “many activities of that time are unimaginable today.”
The headmaster, Bjarne Edelskov, points out, among other things, that after Metoo people were given a different language to talk about what might cross the border.
– Fortunately, a lot has changed in youth culture – as well as in society in general. The statement says that part of the experiences Clara Togo Dunkeld described from her time in high school are not something that would normally happen in or outside Gammel Hellerup Gymnasium today.
However, Edelskopf maintains that he was sorry to hear about how Clara Tojo Dunkeld feels today that her boundaries were crossed during the application week.
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